Kambili: Igniting the Spark of Self-Actualization


Kambili is a woman constantly drawn out of her comfort zone. Her own quest for self-actualization has become the catalyst to help other women discover and embrace their true selves. She firmly believes that the path to self-actualization is an ongoing journey, one that demands courage, authenticity, and a willingness to redefine limitations.

Kambili’s canvas for exploration is vast and varied. She’s an entrepreneur who fearlessly launched Kamokini (2014 – 2018), her swimwear line, which was not just about fashion but about promoting body positivity and inclusivity in African communities. 

Now, her professional career takes her into the demanding world of marketing at Google, and yet, she still finds space for her creative self. Kambili has written, directed, produced and starred in her debut feature film, a bold venture into storytelling. 

Perhaps one of her most remarkable feats is venturing into the realm of ultra-endurance sports. Last year, Kambili completed a 50km ultramarathon trail in the Chilterns countryside in England, pushing her physical and mental resilience to the edge. These experiences have not only deepened her own strength but have fueled her passion for helping others find their power.

Beyond her individual journey, Kambili extends her impact as a life coach and an empowerment mentor with The Women International (TWI). In this role, she brings her infectious belief in the limitless potential within each individual, radiating warmth that invites others to step into their own light. As the host of the W Circle Support Group Sessions and the Journey to Baby Support Group, Kambili guides individuals through the often-uncertain path of personal growth, offering wisdom born from her deep understanding of the challenges and triumphs inherent in the journey to self-actualization

In a world that often pushes conformity, Kambili stands as a beacon of authenticity and empowerment, relentlessly driven to help others uncover their truest selves by tapping into their inner strength, shedding societal expectations that don’t serve growth, and embracing their unique identities.

Kambili’s unwavering belief in the limitless potential within each individual is infectious. She radiates a warmth that invites others to step into their own light, guiding them through the often-uncertain path of personal growth. Her words echo with wisdom, born from a deep understanding of the challenges and triumphs that accompany the journey to self-actualization.

Follow Kambili’s impactful journey on Instagram, @kambiliofili (https://www.instagram.com/kambiliofili/) and explore her debut film, “Shaping Us,” on the website, www.shaping-us.com and Instagram, @shaping-us (https://www.instagram.com/shaping-us/). Join her on the support group sessions every 2nd and 4th Wednesday of the month here, https://chat.whatsapp.com/F4yqkbS6s5a0s71WX1P0Aa

Catch our interview with her below,

Q: Tell us something interesting that most people don’t know about you.

A: I think it was 2015/ 2016, a clip of me dancing to Praiz singing at my traditional wedding went viral on IG and I didn’t claim it. You couldn’t see my face so only people that were there knew it was me.

Q: What inspires you ?

A: God, which also means everything. I stay constantly open to new information, new ways of looking at the same things, change etc.

Q: You’re a woman of many talents, You’re a Marketing guru, A movie producer, a writer, a business woman and also A Life Coach for The Women International. Would you say your childhood played a part in shaping the many facets of your life today?

A: For sure, my childhood played a part. I know I’m a product of all the experiences I’ve been privileged enough to have, the good, great, ugly and sad. 

Q: Describe your personality using four dynamic words.

A: Constantly changing, ever evolving

Q:What do you find most challenging about your work?

A: Administrative tasks! 

Q: Who are your favourite people in the world?

A: My daughter tops the list and all my other children (nephews and nieces both biological and non)

Q: If you were to change something about yourself what would it be?

A: I won’t change anything about myself. I am everything I need to be right now to become everything I am supposed to be tomorrow

Q: Would you say self acceptance is necessary for self-actualization and how does one begin a journey towards self-actualization?

A: My experience is yes, self acceptance is necessary. For me, you can’t step into who you are if you don’t have the desire to know or like who you are. You have to give yourself permission to exist in full, light and shadows, without judgment, trusting there’s purpose to all parts of you.

Q: Tell us about a time in your life when you felt the happiest or a favorite memory you have

A: This is an ongoing thing. I am not convinced any moment in my life holds happiness hostage. There are moments each day that bring me intense joy. It ebbs and flows all the time. 

Q: A little birdie told us that, you have a new movie coming out this year, can you tell us a bit about the movie and what inspired the story behind it.

A: The movie is titled Shaping Us and it’s about the pivotal moments in life that shape our trajectories. It explores the themes of infertility (both male and female- check out TWI x 1in 10 women podcast series), postpartum depression and love after divorce. I drew on real life experiences both mine and those around me to tell this story. If the themes resonate follow our movie’s progression (links attached above), we have currently been accepted to a Film Festival in Los Angeles but we are waiting on the official press release to share more details.

Q: In addition to your work and business, you also work with The Women International in empowering women. Can you tell us a bit about the Support Group Sessions that you host with the Women’s Circle Community and what it means to you.

A: These sessions are so special to me. For now, we hold 1-hr sessions twice a month. We have no agenda other than to hold space for whoever attends the virtual session and holding space looks different every time. We check in on the feelings/ concerns/ triumphs in the room and the tribe leans in to hold each other up and to celebrate each other’s wins. It’s magical, the love that passes through from each person in that space. Even when we don’t know the other attendees personally, in this judgement free space, we all meet each other’s vulnerabilities in sharing with the utmost respect and intention to manifest the best outcomes for each other.

Q: What can the women who join the support group sessions hope to find?

A: Safety, community, love, renewed energy, space to breathe, sense of self, you better ask others before I run away with my responses here!

Q: Being a beacon of support and hope for so many women can’t be easy. How do you manage on the days when you don’t feel inspired enough to inspire others? Where do you draw inspiration from to keep on affirming and inspiring women?

A: Honestly, it’s God. Alone I would not only be depleted but I won’t be able to. My name Kambili means “Let me Live” and I really take it to heart to mean Let God within ME live through and through so when I feel physically scarce (which does happen), I tap out for God to take over, knowing I don’t do anything in my own strength.

Q: Do you have a favourite author or book?

A: Not at the moment, no. No favorite.

Q: If you had the opportunity to go back in time, what would you change or do differently? And how would that change affect your life now?

A: Nothing. You can’t get to this level of peace and trust in yourself without knowing that all parts of your life, not some, not most but all got you to where you are now. How can you not be grateful for it all with that knowledge?

Q: What would you like people to remember you for?

A: I want people to remember the best of themselves when they remember me. 

Q: What advice would you give to young women who are struggling with finding themselves or their purpose in life?

A: (My advice always changes as I continue to learn so take this as a very in the moment response.) I’d say the hint is in the word struggle. Stop struggling. Struggle comes from knowing (consciously or subconsciously) what is in your heart to be or do and knowing there’s a gap between it and what may feel more programmed/ in line with where you feel you are in the given moment. Stop the struggle and trust/ believe your heart. Once you do, everything shifts from “what to do” to ”how to do it”.

Q: What pushed you to register for the 50km Ultra Marathon last year and is it something you would do again?

A: Folx are going to get tired of me saying this, guess? God. Hahaha. The idea came before I understood it and I just let it have space in my being. It was after I was already entertaining the idea that I started seeing all the ways it would benefit me – from being able to raise funds for Autism to the tangible benefits of pushing through my physical boundaries to achieve something. Would I do it again? God, oya, answer!

Q: If someone asked you to describe The Women International in one word, what would it be?

A: Healing

Q: Thank you for your time Kambili and for the gift of you! 

A: Thank YOU for giving me the space to fulfill a significant part of my heart’s desire


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